Wellbeing

Confidence: Beat social anxiety at Christmas parties

Have you ever been totally absorbed in conversation?

Feeling rapport, suddenly finding yourself totally enamoured in that moment. Your breathing slows down and the person has your undivided attention. A magical connection, you feel as if you’ve know this person your whole life. It’s almost as if time is slowing down and you are feeling a connection beyond words. Create these states deliberately and never be lost for words. I have put together a number of my favourite tips below, use them and enjoy the results!

Feel good, people will naturally gravitate towards you. Women spend time doing their make-up and men today take even longer getting ready! No one really takes the time to make themselves up from the inside out, get yourself into a good feeling state!
If you’ve

never met the person before and wish to strike up conversation, use the following opener:

“Hi My

name is… we haven’t met yet.” Now shake their hand. Say this with genuine curiosity and sincerity the person you are talking to will feel it and you instantly establish rapport.

People’s favourite subject is THEMSELVES; listen carefully and take a mental note of interests and desires. A great question to elicit this would be: “What do you do that you enjoy most that you are truly passionate about?” Then listen attentively, the answers will give the key to their heart.

No negative topics, this creates a negative atmosphere and the person may associate the negative feelings with you!

Always use “I” statements. Put your view first then ask opinions, such as: “I think think the decor in this venue is outstanding, I particularly like…” then ask their opinion.
When the person you are talking to contributes something of admiration, compliment them “I really like that about you”. Be specific on what it is and this shows genuine admiration.

Article by

Dominic Knight

Human Behaviour Specialist

Dominic Knight is a human behaviour specialist based in London’s Harley Street. For more information about his life transforming methods download a free chapter of Dominic’s book Pushing to The...

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Article by

Dominic Knight

Human Behaviour Specialist

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